A typical week for an elementary through high school student likely includes tasks such as completing homework, studying for upcoming tests, attending multiple club meetings and sports practices, hanging out with friends, and meeting with teachers. In the hustle and bustle of the everyday routine, one important thing often gets lost: chores. Many parents may feel as though their child has no time for chores amidst their busy schedule, or that it is easier to just do everything themselves. Decades of studies have shown, however, that children who regularly engage in activities to help keep the household running smoothly have a greater sense of self-regulation, reliance, responsibility, and mastery. They also have a greater awareness of the importance of caring for others in relationships. Referring to your child as a helper when he walks the dog or empties the dishwasher, for example, helps him to realize the importance of helping others and doing his part for the benefit of the group.

For children with ADHD, chores can be especially beneficial. They can serve as recognition of the child’s value that she adds to the household and make her feel as though she makes a positive contribution when often she experiences more frustrations and failures as compared to the average child. Keep in mind that it is important to model the steps that children need to take in order to complete the chore successfully and provide some guided practice before they are expected to do it independently, especially for younger children. If the child is doing laundry, for instance, this might mean showing him how to separate darks and lights, measure out the correct amount of soap, load the washer without overstuffing, put it on the correct settings, and set a timer as a reminder for when the clothes will be ready to switch to the dryer. Providing some sort of written or visual cues illustrating the steps is also helpful until the chore becomes routine. Establishing a timeframe is another useful strategy to employ when assigning chores. Instead of asking your child to set the table, you could ask her to set the table by 6:00 pm in order to provide greater motivation to complete the task.

So, have your children roll up their sleeves and start washing the dishes, feeding the dog, doing the laundry, setting the table, dusting the furniture, making the beds, and taking out the trash. They may not thank you now, but they will be much better off in the future having learned the value of chores.

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If you’re looking for some extra motivation to help get a child to buy into the idea of chores, take a look at these engaging apps:

• You Rule Chores ($3.99)
  • An app where the child chooses an avatar and completes approved chores for digital coins that can be redeemed for rewards
• ChoreMonster ($4.99/month)
  • Gives points and rewards for completed chores, a long with passes to a Monster Carnival where kids play to win fun digital prizes
• Epic Win, iReward Chart, Chore Pad
  • Digital replacements for chore charts with stickers or stars

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*http://www.wsj.com/articles/why-children-need-chores-1426262655
*http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/2995.html
*http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424127887324507404578594162291640902

Have you ever heard of the term “neurodiversity?” If you’re like me, the word is new, but the concept behind it makes a lot of sense and feels like it should have existed in your vocabulary for a long time now. The Washington Post recently published an article entitled, “In autism, a sense of comfort and identity, not dread” by Sandhya Somashekhar. It talks about how various neurological differences, in particular autism, are just that—inborn wirings of the brain that cause a person to function in unique ways. More and more, people are speaking out about neurodiversity and are advocating for increased awareness of all of the exceptional abilities and challenges that come with a diagnosis such as autism. The overarching goal is for people with autism to be better understood and accepted, not seen as in need of a “cure” or changing who they really are in order to become more “normal.” The neurodiversity movement likens itself to those of gay rights or improving police treatment of African Americans, considering people with autism “a minority group, albeit one with extra challenges that might need accommodating.”

At Thinking Organized, we notice the same trend among our students and parents over the past several years . The lines of communication are open much wider regarding diagnoses such as autism, in which clients are more readily able to embrace themselves for who they are and act as their own self-advocates. Understanding the strengths and challenges of our clients and helping them to find strategies to make difficult tasks a better fit for their distinct learning style is what we’re all about here and is what makes our job so fulfilling. When awareness increases, so can acceptance. It is a wonderful thing when people can acknowledge their individuality and be accepted by others, and knowledge is the first step toward understanding. The “neurodiversity movement” will hopefully continue to spread as more people gain confidence in what makes them special and are unashamed about sharing it with the world. Recognizing that there is no such thing as “normal” and broadening our perspectives as to the endless variety of people living here on earth will help everyone feel important, accepted, and respected.

You may have heard that about 100 students in Loudon County, Virginia, have to re-take the SAT this June. The College Board reports that the tests were never received, and unfortunately, there is no magical way to conjure scores for students whose tests were lost in the shuffle. As a result, after months of studying and hundreds of dollars spent on test prep, many families are bitterly disappointed. Frustration runs deepest with the students, who now have to muster up the strength to re-take the SAT when they have already put it all behind them. For us here at Thinking Organized, this story connects on a personal level. We would like to share our story and some words of wisdom for students faced with unexpected obstacles.

A relative of mine had to retake the SAT exam many years ago; her score was considered invalid for a reason that I still don’t understand. Needless to say, she thought the world had come to an end and that her chances of getting into college had significantly diminished. The College Board provided another test date, but that was hardly a terrific consolation prize. The first thing I did was to help this student understand that there was no other choice; the exam had to be retaken. I did agree with her that this was very unfortunate and highly unfair. I think acknowledging the tough situation that your child is facing can be an important way of showing that you are listening and agreeing that the predicament is terrible.

Next, we decided together that she had prepared as well as she could, so she was just going to go in and retake the SAT. For some students, the idea of having to gear up again to study is just so overwhelming that it is not worth the trouble. For others, a little more studying might calm nerves and show the student that he or she is ready. I tried to help her and her parents return to “normal life” until the exam, rather than continuously revisiting the issue. Although this retake may feel devastating to a high school student, it is important to try to move on and not dwell on the unfairness of the situation. By remaining stuck in frustration, a student’s schoolwork may suffer, which will have a larger impact on one’s overall profile than a repeated SAT.

Let your child know that you stand with him or her, acknowledge the student’s anger and frustration, and support your child in getting into a better mindset to retake the exam. Believe me, your student, like all high school students, will forget the stress of the SATs once the acceptance letters from colleges begin to come in!!

When considering a technological trend for studying, pay attention to these important criteria:

1. Accessibility
2. Adaptability
3. Multiple Review Modes
4. Centralized location

App Spotlight: StudyBlue

StudyBlue can be downloaded for free from the iTunes App Store or Android Google Play. You can upgrade to StudyBlue Pro with no ads and advanced study features for $4.00 per month. Both the free and pro versions can make a huge difference in your child’s study habits, and we would recommend sticking with the free version since it’s got all of the useful features for no cost.

For the disorganized student, the StudyBlue app can help initiate and focus the studying process toward mastery of the content while keeping materials organized and available.

 Accessibility

Why it’s important: When it comes to studying, you never know when you might have a few free minutes to review the material. Students might have time during study hall or in between the end of the school day and sports practice to brush up on the vocabulary for tomorrow’s test. If notecards get scattered throughout a backpack or study sheets are left at home, valuable time can be wasted.

How the app can help: StudyBlue is readily accessible online, on the iPad, or on a student’s Apple or Android smartphone.

StudyBlue uses technology that most students have at their fingertips. Using flashcards is a tried-and-true study tool, but it can get jumbled. Cards can easily get lost, pile up and lose any sense of organization, or become crumbled and cumbersome to carry around. Having the appropriate materials available anywhere and everywhere allows students to make the most of their study time.

 Adaptability

Why it’s important: The more ways you interact with a concept, the easier it will be for you to remember it. While studying, if you write out a concept and can both hear and see it as well, the chances of you remembering it later are much greater.

How the app can help: The app allows students to create original decks of flashcards or study from thousands of decks already created by other students at their school or university. When creating a card, you can customize the text using color and style. Color can be used to distinguish the definition from examples, for instance. There is even an option that brings up a variety of symbols so that entering math formulas is a cinch.

One of the most unique features of the app is that it is possible to add an image that represents the definition in addition to a sound recording to each card. This way, they are simple to customize for any subject. If you are studying composers and the music they created or a foreign language, adding sound to a card can really help. If you have to know artists and the paintings they made or want to have a visual image in your mind to help cue your memory as to the meaning of a word, adding a picture is a great option.

Multiple Review Modes

Why it’s important: Studying can get tedious and inefficient. Students may waste time going over information that they already know or lose interest and quickly flip through flashcards without regard to learning the material. Having options to encourage active studying and track progress can maximize the benefits of using flashcards as a study tool.

How the app can help: StudyBlue will track your study habits so that you can review a concept on various settings, either in order, random, least studied, or hardest to easiest. You can quiz yourself by flipping the cards and indicating whether you answered correctly or incorrectly, taking a multiple choice, true and false, or fill-in-the-blank test, or creating a review sheet. After, the app gives you a score and estimates your mastery of the concept as it shows how many you studied and breaks down the number of right and wrong.

To go along with all of these useful review features, you can even set a study reminder via text, Facebook, or e-mail anywhere from 15 minutes to 48 hours into the future so that you don’t forget about your review time.

Centralized Location

Why it’s important: Assessments involve a compilation of learned material, which can make for a disorganized mess. Students might have class notes, readings, and vocabulary cards that contain all of the information needed for studying scattered throughout a bedroom, locker, binders, or backpack. A lot of time can be wasted looking for what to study instead of learning the material!

How the app can help: StudyBlue allows students to create their own “digital backpack” that contains a neat listing of all of their classes and materials. Not only can sets of flashcards be stored and sorted into appropriate categories, but also notes and other class materials can be uploaded and stored a long with them. The best part is that they will never go missing or get ruined since they are always securely backed up online.

If you enter the app store armed with the knowledge of what standards are important for a worthwhile download when it comes to studying, the learning outcomes can increase significantly.

For more information about the StudyBlue app, visit www.studyblue.com.

School is supposed to be a place for academic learning, discovery, joy, and social development. Think about your elementary school experiences. It is likely that there was time for free play, music, recess, art, games, and pure enjoyment of learning. Today, pressures are high and many of these elementary experiences that we can fondly look back upon have fallen by the wayside. Students are expected to be “college and career” ready by the time they graduate high school, and the expectations start as early as kindergarten.

According to a recent New York Times article “Is Your First Grader College Ready?” by Laura Pappano, students as young as six years old are filling out mock college applications and kids who are only nine to twelve years old are touring college campuses on school field trips. As the bar continues to rise for students to be admitted into top universities, the appropriate time to start preparing becomes earlier and earlier. The pressure mounts for all of the building blocks to be perfectly stacked by twelfth grade, including academic achievement, extracurricular involvement, volunteer experience, and so on.

Stop a second. What are we doing to our kids? How much stress and anxiety will we cause for them with our extraordinary expectations? How much of their carefree childhood will we steal away? There is no reason why teachers and parents should not hold high expectations for their children. There is also nothing wrong with thinking about the future, having goals, and learning that it takes hard work and perseverance to get there. However, young students deserve time to learn about the world and themselves. They need time to explore their passions, which could change from day to day or month to month. It is important to keep the joy within the learning process, both academic and social, and to gain certain maturity before being ready to tackle big life questions.

It’s time to dial it down. As elementary students especially, children should be taught that they are in control of the outcomes of their actions. They should always work hard, do their best in any endeavor, and follow their passions. That should be enough to build a solid foundation on which to build once they are older and can go on to achieve their future goals.

Our top “Tip” in 2014 focused on helping middle and high school students tackle writing. In case you missed it or need a refresher, here it is again!

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In middle and high school, students face more complex writing assignments, with deadlines that seem far in the future.

Writing a formal essay can be a daunting task. Some students get so buried in the information gathering process that they never feel ready to actually form opinions and commit ideas to paper. Other students write pages and pages, which later get discarded. Then there are those who agonize over each sentence, even each word choice, to the point that they are too anxious to get anything on paper.

Here are some tips to help tackle middle and high school writing:

Avoid Procrastination

The biggest mistake teenagers make with writing assignments is procrastination. Time management is one of the most important factors in producing the best possible essay.

Ideally, sit down with your child when a writing exercise is first assigned. Work backwards by marking the due date on the calendar and then estimating how much time will be needed for editing and revising, creating a rough draft, researching or gathering information, outlining and brainstorming. Usually, this process helps the student see that he needs to begin working as soon as the project is assigned. 

The Rough Draft

Having a plan of action for the rough draft is a significant relief for students. Using a structure to formulate and express their ideas actually gives them more freedom to compose and organize their thoughts. It is comforting to emphasize that mistakes are expected when writing the rough draft. At this stage, it’s more important for students to articulate their thoughts than to worry about perfecting each paragraph.

In an ideal world, the rough draft should be finished a week before the due date to allow time to enlist trusted proofreaders. Editing and revising should not be a painful process, but a time to reinforce the mechanics of effective writing, to check the organization, and to review word choices.

Writing Steps

Step #1: Body Paragraph

At Thinking Organized we encourage students to start writing the body paragraphs first. If some ideas have been brainstormed and organized ahead of time, it is usually fairly straightforward to write a body paragraph about each main topic.

Thinking Organized students learn and practice the S.E.E. method to help them create organized paragraphs with a logical progression of ideas.

In this system, the “S” stands for “Statement,” the first “E” for “Evidence” and the last “E” for “Explanation.” As the evidence is usually the researched material or a quote from a novel, this is pretty straightforward. However, explaining the evidence and connecting it back to the statement can prove challenging.

Step #2: Introduction

After the body paragraphs are in place, students are ready to start the introduction. They can begin by referring back to the working thesis statement in their outline to see if it still makes sense. The thesis statement should sum up the point being argued in the essay. The introduction should orient the reader to the topic in broad terms first, leading to the more specific thesis statement.

Step #3: Conclusion

Finally, the conclusion should restate the thesis in different words and end with what we like to call a “so what?” This is the time to tie the thesis to something larger, a greater concept that helps the reader know why it is important.

With this structure in place, writing will quickly become a process to be followed step by step, rather than a dreaded, anxiety-producing exercise. Learning and practicing effective writing strategies in middle and high school will make the more difficult topics covered in college approachable and easier to tackle. Whether or not professional writing is in your child’s future, gaining confidence with expressing oneself through written language is an important tool for future success.

A parent inquired on a previous blog:

Hi, Thanks for all the great thought, information and ideas. I really appreciate the tip on getting my child to touch on each subject every day. I’m also hoping you might be able to give me tips for high school students where everything is done on an ipad so nothing is tangible. [My student] also has no diary/organizer in place at all, as he wants one on the ipad but none of them work for him (or rather I don’t think he uses them fully). Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. He was getting amazing marks in primary school but now due to poor executive functioning his marks are hit and miss and have all slipped.

Our response when technology isn’t so easy to the touch:

Technology in the classroom can be an amazing tool. It can allow students to complete assignments in more efficient and creative ways while reaching a variety of audiences. However, it can also be a challenge. When reading on a tablet, for example, there can be little opportunity to interact with the text. In order for students to fully comprehend what they are reading, make connections, and absorb material for long term use, interaction with the text is key. One obvious way to get around this is to simply put the reading on paper and annotate as normal. Another solution could be to annotate on a separate sheet of paper side by side with the reading. Moreover, there are a variety of apps available for download intended to help the reader annotate using technology. For example, iAnnotate (available in both the App Store and on Google Play) allows the reader to highlight, underline, add pop-up comments, and more as he or she is reading. For digital natives, it can just be a matter of finding the app that works for you!

Another component of the digital age in schools is online access to a planner and assignments. Some students are comfortable with keeping track of all of their coursework online, while others may find it difficult. One helpful tool for managing assignments online is the MyHomework app (available in the App Store, on Google Play, in the Windows Store, and on Kindle Fire). It allows students to sync their schedule across devices in order to maintain an organized list of tasks to be completed. Students can even set alerts to remind them that an assignment is due. The app is also visually organized so that students can customize what they want to see on the screen and how it will appear, for instance looking at a side by side list of late and upcoming work.

To supplement an online assignment notebook, it can also be useful to keep a hard copy of a monthly calendar in a place where it can be referenced periodically. Writing down the most important work-related and personal events can help to keep an organized picture of the month in mind and serve as another reminder of what is ahead.

The best part of having a vast amount of tools available is that everyone can customize an organizational system that fits their needs.

What does it really mean to “understand” how students with learning differences see the world? A new website, appropriately titled www.understood.org, offers an answer.

Understood.org provides parents with empowering information using a variety of helpful resources developed by a network of 15 nonprofit groups who specialize in children’s learning and attention issues, including experts such as psychiatrists, neurologists, special education teachers, and speech-language pathologists. It is a broad, versatile resource that can be used as a one-stop-shop for parents looking for information that is tailored to their child.

When parents first enter the site, they can create a profile to receive personalized recommendations for resources based upon their needs. They can read articles to gain greater insight into their child’s challenges or obtain advice about how to best help their child succeed. They can complete questionnaires designed to guide them through important points of consideration when making a decision, such as whether their child’s classroom placement should be changed. They can connect with experts and other parents who are having similar experiences through secure online web discussions and blogs. One of our favorite sections of the site is titled “Through Your Child’s Eyes” that has a student talking about his or her challenges in a particular area, such as attention, a simulation that allows the user to get a better sense of what it would feel like to have the same challenges, and a follow-up with an expert explaining the particular hindrances and strategies to help mitigate them. This offers parents a unique opportunity to experience what day-to-day life might feel like for their child.

Understood.org offers a multitude of insightful resources that are definitely worth taking a few minutes to browse for anyone looking to learn more about learning and attention issues and connect with others who have expert knowledge and similar experiences. Feel free to take a look and let us know what you think!

The National Center for Learning Disabilities (NCLD): The State of Learning Disabilities

The New York Times: Helping Parents Deal with Learning and Attention Issues

Imagine you are sitting in a grade school classroom. The teacher walks by to observe your work, looks at your neighbor’s paper, and comments, “Great work. You’re so smart!” She then continues on her way down the row. While this may seem like an innocuous comment, it has a major effect on students’ mindsets in the classroom. Why? It communicates the idea that intelligence is fixed. It makes students think that intelligence is something that either you have or you don’t, and if you are not one of the lucky ones who is smart, then you must be dumb. Instead of communicating this message to children, parents and teachers should promote what is known as a “growth mindset.”

The “growth mindset” is detailed in Carol Dweck’s book titled Mindset: How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential. The basic premise is that intelligence can grow over time, thus all learners can improve. To foster this idea, parents and teachers can say to a child, “You worked really hard to complete this assignment. Great job!” Notice the difference? It is placing the emphasis on the student’s effort. It is important for students to be able to persist through difficult tasks and realize that hard work reaps rewards. If students are praised for their hard work, they are more likely to take risks and believe in their own self-efficacy.

Now imagine that you are in that grade school classroom once again. If the teacher walks by your desk and says to your neighbor, “I can see how hard you’ve been working, well done,” you might think, “Maybe I can work a little harder.” Believing that output correlates with effort will bring a student much further in life than believing that intelligence is unchanging, and it will set them up for much greater success.

Education Week: Creating the Context for Growth Mindsets in the Classroom

New York Magazine: How Not to Talk to Your Kids

The Common Core standards present a significant shift in the way that students are learning and teachers are teaching. They emphasize a deep understanding of content by thinking critically, analyzing information, and solving problems in creative ways. The aim is to equip every student with the necessary tools to be college and career ready by high school graduation.

One of the biggest academic components that the standards require is writing. Students are expected to write across the curriculum to defend a position, explain findings, propose solutions, analyze events, and evaluate possibilities. For students who have difficulties with their executive functions, this can be particularly challenging.

Consider, for example, a student I had in the classroom whom I will call Joe. When it was time to write for any purpose throughout the day, Joe would often sit at his desk with a blank stare. When other students would have a paragraph of written work complete, Joe would have a couple of words. It was clear that Joe had ideas, but was stuck when it came to getting those ideas on paper. Joe worked with me after school where I was able to give him an explicit structure and one-on-one attention for his writing step-by-step. At the end of the day, he was able to complete writing assignments just as well as, if not better than, the other students.

With a little extra persistence, Joe and all students like him can conquer the Common Core!